Today I have two stories to tell, both sad. I had a bad dream last night and blame that for all the things happened to my friends today.
I’ll start with the first one. Today I was going to lunch with Leila and Bethany. As soon as Leila showed up, we knew something was wrong. She lost her wedding ring. At first we were all shocked, but it got even worse since she was not worried about the ring, rather her husband’s reaction. That was more of a bad news for me! Why can’t you be honest with him? Why are you even afraid of him? Losing a ring isn’t a big deal. It happens.
Now I have to tell more about their relationship (as much as I know). They met in the university when she was in a bad place emotionally. The interesting thing about their relationship is they have 20 years age difference. No kidding! From the surface, they really seem to match. James acts much younger than his age and she is more mature than a girl her age. However, underneath the hood, they fight all the time. Apparently James has a bad temper; A really bad one that makes her scared. To be honest, she doesn’t seem happy which upsets me.
And now the wedding ring is lost. She is so afraid that she even wants to secretly get the exact same ring without him knowing; however, even that might not help her. According to her, he may have already found the ring and just wants to test her. That drives me crazy if it is a possibility. I can understand a little prank but not really taking that as an excuse to fight with her. The situation gets worse when I understood she doesn’t have money of her own to buy the ring even though she is working. Unbelievable! Don’t you think that it’s necessary to have your own bank account even though you might have a shared bank account as well? How would you even buy gifts for one another? It’s not just that though; he is watching the account so closely that she cannot make any unexpected moves. They are well off, but she is not allowed to spend on the things she likes. She has to play some tricks of her own to get away with it. For God’s sake! She is working, but has no control over her money. No wonder she is not happy. I think she needs to (wo)man up and take control of her life in many aspects. The thing is that I cannot help her. I don’t want to be involved in that, but at the same time, it kills me seeing her so weak and unprotected. How would you tell her that it is not normal to be afraid of your husband? It is not normal to not to be able to spend your own money?
I am so frustrated of all that, I will tell the second story in the future post.